Ted Miller, HMCC, CHME, CHSP, CGTP, CGMP
Most of us would say that we have a lot of friends, but how many of those friends do you consider as truly close friends? The answer is really quite simple: how many people have you made a real effort to get to know on a personal basis.
At some point of your relationship with a close friend, you had an opportunity to endear yourself to them. Many people do not realize the impact that going the extra mile to help someone can have. There are times when a word from you on someone’s behalf can have a tremendous effect on the outcome of a meeting or event where they are engaged.
There are also times when you drive friendship through mentoring. For example, encouraging someone who is facing something overwhelming can have an almost life-changing effect on them when they hear an expression of true confidence in their abilities. Everyone needs a boost periodically and when you hear it from certain people it means even more to you.
Establishing a reputation as a leader creates an opportunity for you to be viewed by your peers as someone they should know and use as a role model. It is important you create your image to be one of inclusion and motivating to others. People will always follow someone they like who shows respect for their knowledge and abilities and who gives them additional opportunities to express and utilize their talents.
Many people want the opportunity to be seen as a leader but may shy away from the spotlight as they are unsure of their abilities or feel they may be out of place. This is where the leadership you project to your colleagues will help encourage them to step forward even if it is just a step or two. You can also be seen as a safety valve if someone suddenly feels out of place or now feels unsure of their abilities. Having you as their anchor will bolster them to achieve more.
One last but very important point is to never abuse a friendship or put a person in a situation which could compromise them. When you are unsure of a situation, ask their permission before making a commitment. You must always show them the respect that you would expect.
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