Ambivert

Introvert or Extrovert? It’s not Binary.

I frequently hear people misuse or, at least, not fully understand the difference between introversion and extroversion. Most are not even aware of the concept of ambiversion. What do most assume? Extroverts are loud, gregarious, and the life of the party. Introverts are shy, withdrawn, and reserved. I am generalizing but I think those assumptions track from my experience. Those generalizations can feel frustrating and limiting. The percentage of pure introverts or extroverts is actually quite small. Some surveys indicate that upwards of 75% of the population are ambiverts. In many respects, the introversion-extroversion spectrum is wider and more varied. Additionally, there is no “right way” for construction professionals, leaders, project managers, or field staff.

People are generally surprised when I describe myself as an introvert. They see me deliver workshops or speak in public or engage in conversation with ease and comfort. I need to change my own self-image and identification. Like most, I am an ambivert. How can we better understand the typical traits of an ambivert? We (and most of you) can switch between a spontaneous approach and a need for detailed planning. Ambiverts can recognize when they need that “alone time” and when they need to be around other people. After a workshop, I need to be alone and after a week of working by myself I need human interaction. Ambiverts do not really show a preference between working in team environments or as an independent contributor. Lastly, ambiverts tend to engage in both deep conversation and small talk. In that regard, I more readily align with the introverts that engage in deep, thoughtful discussions and feel uncomfortable with small talk, perhaps meeting new people, or going to a networking event.

The difficult part is developing self-awareness or EQ to understand yourself and your needs. Recognizing triggers or situations that may feel uncomfortable is crucial to asking for and getting what you need. Need, not want. To function at a high level, you can’t drain your emotional energy reserves without recharging. Looking inward helps ensure your own needs are identified and considered. You will also be able to support others more capably. My work as a coach frequently involves helping a client be introspective and fully embrace who they are, what they need, and how to articulate it. I appreciate the adage “if you don’t ask, you won’t get” and this applies no matter where you happen to find yourself on this continuum.

Whether you identify as an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert, the willingness to be introspective and honest with yourself is important to successfully navigating work and life. If you are an ambivert, also understand that your adaptability (perhaps your superpower), taken to an extreme, may leave you feeling adrift. Being adaptable does not mean you don’t have opinions or should be expected to bend to everyone else’s will.

How can you know what a team member, colleague, or family member needs? Easy, start by asking.

Michael Riegel

MRiegel@AECBusinessStrategies.com https://michaelriegel.substack.com/

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