For many of you across the US, the idea that spring is on the doorstep may seem absurd. In North Carolina, the last week ushered in reminders of what we all eagerly anticipate. Sunnier mornings, temperatures reaching into the 70s, and daylight extending beyond 6pm. This is not a pitch to move to North Carolina though we have enjoyed the weather, lifestyle, and abundance of local breweries.
Think about spring, two things come to mind. Time for the heavy cleaning around our house and preparing for planting. We look forward to getting vegetables planted, bringing our citrus plants back outside, and sprucing up with dazzling flowers. We can also use this time to think about our relationships. Are there relationships that need some attention? Do you want to plant the seeds of a new relationship? How can you let others know that you are approachable so they can reciprocate?
Relationships Can Get Messy
I don’t think anyone intentionally tries to damage relationships. It does happen despite our best intentions. We might make a comment or suggestion that lands badly. Or we offer advice when all the other person wants you to do is listen. Check in with those friends and colleagues who you may not have connected with recently. If you realize you have transgressed in some way, accept responsibility, apologize, and willingly clean up the mess.
Who Do You Need in Your Network
I get at least 10 requests to connect on LinkedIn every week. I don’t know most of them and they have nothing to do with my interests or industry. (I am happy to connect with any NAWIC member.) I am referring to people who can help you and to whom you can be helpful. The connections you seek may be career or profession focused. You may be seeking a mentor or advisor. Start the conversation and allow the relationship to take root. Once you have some buds, the signs will be evident that you can count that person as part of your closer circle of colleagues.
Don’t Offer an Open Door Policy
I believed this was the best I could offer to my team members. In reality, most did not take advantage of the offer and, those that did, abused the generosity. In your conversations, let your teammates know you are there for assistance. And, a very important addition, offer specifics. Do you need advice? It sounds like you need a shoulder to lean on. Would you like a referral? Does it make sense to get another call on the calendar so we can check in again? Forget the generic and get to specifics.
In addition to the Daffodils beginning to pop, our seeds are ready to come into full bloom. For our family, those seeds are our 22-year-old twins who will be graduating from college this spring. Man, those seeds took a long time to germinate. Go Blue! Go Blue Devils!
You can reach me at MRiegel@AECBusinessStrategies.com.
Michael Riegel